If everyone likes it, you’re doing something wrong.

When it comes to fashion or anything creative for that matter, if you want to make your mark and be a “tastemaker” or influencer, you can’t be afraid of criticism. I used to constantly try to please the masses and was really sensitive about the negative comments. Now I realize that it comes with the territory and it’s not only O.K. if some don’t approve of your style, it actually means you’re probably doing something right.

What got me thinking about this was a pair of Steve Madden slides I recently bought. They have been either loved or hated by my peers. They’ve been compared to an “ugly sweater” and called down right tacky. It hurt my feelings at first and then I thought “it’s not a bad thing if they aren’t liked or loved by everyone, that’s what makes them uniquely me and that’s pretty awesome.”

The best in the style industry are constantly thinking outside of the box and experimenting with different looks. Many of them I have been critical of in the past. I should add that those I’ve been the most critical of have the biggest following! I may not love everything they do, but am inspired by the fact that they are “going against the grain” and not trying to make a statement by looking like everyone else. That’s the point of being a fashion stylist, right? Trying new things and seeing what works and what doesn’t. Don’t be afraid!!

Here’s a list of some of my favorite fashion stylists and bloggers who aren’t slaves to the cultural norms of style.

Gabi Greg, @gabifresh

As a child of the 90s when being a “waif” was the ultimate fashion statement, there’s not much more groundbreaking to me than a women flaunting the hell out of her curves, with STYLE.

Susie Lau, @susiebubbleon instagram. This bloggers fresh looks and ability to piece things together in a feminine yet “street” worthy fashion is what makes her so good and keeps people watching.

Alex Stedman, @thefrugality

This is a wonderfully relatable mom from North London who posts fashionable yet affordable looks that are chic and unexpected.

Some others I follow… Alexa Chung, Chiara Ferragni, Julia Engel, Danielle Bernstein, Nicolette Mason, Giovanna Engelbert…

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Who are some of your favorite fashion influencers??

Thanks for reading!

XO,

Hil

Alexis Jones: I am that girl.

Alexis Jones, founder of I Am That Girl wearing a “Protect Her” trucker hat.

I love writing about strong woman with purpose. And I love listening to what they have to say. Marie Forleo is one of those women. One of her many admirable talents is that she shares her platform of influence with others on Marie TV. She interviews lots of women (and men) with a wonderfully relaxed intimacy and is able to pull something out of them you might not normally see.

I watched an interview she had with Alexis Jones, creator of IAmthatGirl.org. I had no idea who Alexis Jones was until I watched this episode of Marie TV. Turns out she’s pretty fascinating. Not only does she run the women and girls empowerment organization (I Am That Girl) but she gives talks to athletes about sexual assault and violence against women. Her method of teaching about the subject and ways of combatting these issues is a bit avant-garde.

She is a pioneer in bringing men “into the conversation” about sexual assault instead of making them feel demonized and as though they are the enemy. Her explanation is that men and people in general, shut down when you ridicule them and talk about how horrible they are when most of these men and boys haven’t done anything wrong. Making blanket statements that portray a group of people in a negative light doesn’t serve anyone. It simply pits groups of people against one another and stops any constructive conversation on how to fix the problem.

What Alexis attempts to do is bring male athletes into that conversation. Talking about sexual assault and violence in a way that is personal to them and makes them feel empowered to “be the hero” in a sense, by trying to change the culture that has enabled these acts to go on for so long.

To find out more about her incredible organization and how you can take part in this positive movement visit her web site: iamthatgirl.org. Oh… and by the book…

I Am That Girl: How to Speak Your Truth, Discover Your Purpose, and #bethatgirl

And of course I have to include a fashion component to this article. I love her laid back, athletic style and signature trucker hat. The best thing about the hat is that it raises money for “Protect Her” a chapter of I Am that Girl.

“ProtectHer, founded by Alexis Jones (who also founded I AM THAT GIRL!), is all about empowering male athletes and young men everywhere to respect the women in their lives. Learn more about ProtectHer here.”

Complete the look with the pieces below. Click images to shop.

Blazer Mid Vintage Sneaker: Nike

Slub Crewneck T by Carlson

Zella Midi Leggings in Black

Thanks for reading! What women are you inspired by?

XO,

Hilary

Advice from the great Iris Apfel and how to wear it.

I recently read an interview with Iris Apfel in Bazaar where she gives some lovely and wise advice about fashion, the art of style and getting older. If you don’t know who she is she is a well-known fashion icon from New York who made career in interior design, partaking in such high-profile design restoration project as that of the White House for 9 different presidents including the Kennedys.

Dress your age. “Seventy year olds don’t have eighteen year old bodies and eighteen year olds don’t have seventy year old bucks.” I’m going on Forty and admittedly don’t always “dress my age”, usually when I wear a mini skirt or shorts. But, my feeling is that I’ll only be able to pull them off a few more years before I cash the minis in for good. So… I’m rocking them while I can. That being said, I try to keep it classy. I love good button downs and blazers to dress things up and make an outfit more sophisticated. Smythe jackets, like the one below, are so well-tailored and worth every penny. I love the puffy sleeves and sleek look of this one. It a nice change from your average black blazer.
Dress things up with costume jewelry. “I think jewelry is the most transformative of accessories.” I love Forever 21 for inexpensive accessories that are on trend. I’ve done a lot of shopping there to grab jewels for photo shoots. I want something that’s current but don’t want to spend a ton knowing the item won’t be relevant in a few seasons. Like these tassel earrings. I love the tassle trend but this won’t last, these are great option to rock it and not break the bank.
Embrace getting older. She says “Wrinkles are a badge of courage.” and quotes Chanel: “Nothing makes a woman look older than trying so desperately to look young.” I couldn’t agree more! But she also advises to take care of yourself so you look your best at any age. Here’s a great product from Keihls that I’ve been using recently to rejuvenate my skin at night. I tend to break out from heavy creams so a serum works well for me.
Dress up sometimes!! Give yourself a reason to dress up, whether it’s a date night or an event; make it a priority to have a reason to look your best. This jumpsuit from Boston Proper is a great reason to plan a night out…
Be Yourself. “Learn to be yourself, to develop a sense of curiosity, and to not live vicariously through these characters you follow on social media that have absolutely no personality.” This is my favorite. Being a person who uses social media as a platform to promote my fashion and lifestyle business, it’s interesting to see those that are so popular on different social networks and why. The first that comes to mind is the everlasting Kardashians who have almost a billion followers combined. I’m not a big fan of them but I try to understand what makes them so likable and infectious to the masses. When I see their show I have to say that I kind of get it. You see their personalities come through in a very genuine way and that gets people interested. The point is, they are popular for being themselves so you need to develop your own personality, sense of style and beauty that is true to who you are. If you are copying someone else, and we see so many who try to look exactly like Kim or Kylie etc… it’s so obvious, disingenuous and why do we need a replica of Kim K. in this world!? What makes you different is your strength, so use it!!

Spring has finally sprung!

After a long winter, warmer days are finally upon us! I wasn’t inspired until now to really delve into spring/ summer fashion. But I’m ready now! And I’m looking at all the latest styles by top designers to find you the best collection of warm weather fashion you’ll find.

This season anything goes! From bright colors, to florals, to stripes, there is so much to choose from and I’m here to help you make sense of it all and figure out what suits your taste and lifestyle. If you want some help with your wardrobe this season remember to email me for your free wardrobe consultation: hilary@welldressedboston.com.

Ok let’s get started!!

Casual/ Chic is the ultimate trend right now and my favorite way to wear it is with some jogger pants. There are so many ways to dress this essential up or down. To work I wear a button down and kitten heels, casually a fitted t-shirt and sandal will do the job. This pair from Cinq a Sept is perfect ant it some in black too. Click the image to shop.

Colored stripes are everywhere this spring. This dress by Milly is a great way to wear it. Dresses are my favorite summer attire, so easy. For work you can throw on a blazer or a cardigan and weekends, pair it with sandals or sneakers.

As for florals, this blouse by Equipment is a beautiful option. It Looks great with these black jeans but pairing it with a patterned skirt would be adorable as well. Click on the image to shop the look.

Clear heels. To say I’m obsessed with these Schutz sandal is an understatement. These are perfect for those spring/ summer weddings and events you’re attending.

The “palm print.” It’s sort of been over done this season but I still love it. A great way to sport it with this adorable swimsuit.

Milly palm print swimsuit.

Slides and Gucci. Slides are still having their moment and Gucci is too, not to say that Gucci isn’t always wonderful but it’s had an em emergence in popularity this year, #guccigang. As much as I do enjoy the current designs by Alessandro Michele, my favorite Gucci moment will always be when Tom Ford was the Creative Director. Maybe that’s because I’m a 90s girl. #agingmyself

What are your thoughts? Who is your favorite creative director?

Gucci Pursuit, horsebit slides.

What’s your favorite trend this season?

XO,

Hilary

Proenza Schouler PA

One of the perks of my job is that we have public appearances by some of the top designers in the industry. Last week the designers for Proenza Schouler, Jack McCollough and Lazaro Hernandez came to the store for an event. They spoke about their Spring and Fall 2018 collections, the launch of their new fragrance, Arizona, and a little about their background as designers. Their spring collection is very feminine with the use floral prints, silk and lace materials and flowing silhouettes. The Fall 2018 collection is quite a departure, drawing inspiration from “women’s lib” and the artist Sheila Hicks whose use of fibers and hardware is seen as very Americana and a reflection of the hardworking women of past generations. Metals, fringe, and tie dye fabrics are used to emulate the modern women of defiance and strength.

Here are a few of my favorite pieces from the Fall collections. To shop the brand click here or on the images below.

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V-Day Advice and fashion tips.

I’m not big on Valentine’s day. Mostly because of the way girls/ women make it a big deal, whether they are single or attached. If in a relationship it somehow becomes this big adieu about what their man will do for them this year. Will he get them jewelry, chocolates, a teddy bear or dare I say… something in the “little blue box”???? And if he doesn’t send you flowers at work he’s dead meat. From experience, it sucks to be the only lady not getting flowers at work on Valentine’s day, but that’s me playing into the hands of the holiday marketers.

Sad single women are even worse… the melancholy, doldrums of all the single ladies on Valentine’s day is pathetic, trite and quite frankly, puke worthy.

The best Valentine’s day participants are the single and ready to mingle types who don’t give a fuck. I loved going out with my girls, sometimes with the intent of having an “anti-Valentine’s day” celebration, but it was all in good fun and always humourous. Besides, there’s plenty of time to spend Valentine’s day with your true love once you actually find them. So what’s the point of going out with some lame guy just for the sake of not being alone?? Go out with the people you truly like and want to spend time with, have fun and who know’s, maybe you’ll get struck by cupids arrow.

Here are some of my fave pieces to where out this V-day from Revolve.

Aubrey off the shoulder red jumpsuit

Sort of obsessed with this sequin dress by Free People.

For a more casual look…

Fallen Hearts Tee paired with satin joggers, a mini skirt or your fave pair of going out jeans and some kick ass heels make for the perfect going out look.

I’d love to hear from you! Tell me about your favorite Valentine’s day.

xo,

Hilary

#motherchic

I love my job because it gives me the opportunity to experiment with different fashion trends. But on the regular, I’m in my “mom uniform” of leggings and a cute top. The reason for this is two-fold, it’s comfortable and I can workout in it. I don’t want to get dressed up when I’m chasing a toddler around who will most likely wipe his jelly hands on me at some point during the day.

Luckily there are a lot of fashionable and comfortable clothes choose from to make life a not just comfortable but fashionable. Here are some of my favorites from the ASOS web-site:
Puma sweatshirt, an ASOS exclusive:

Puma Exclusive To Asos Cutout Sweatshirt

Reebok Metallic High Rise Leggings. I live in black leggings, it may be considered boring but they’re always flattering, go with anything and the “metallic” on these give it a little something extra.

I love crop tops. I know there’s a fear of them, but you can always throw a cami underneath for a cute layered look if you’re scared to bare your midriff.

I love the look of a crop top with a baggy pant like this pair from Adidas.

adidas Mix Up Pants In Gray

I like a basic tank to workout in, nothing fancy. No weird loops or bows, keep it simple. Nothing says “suburban house wife” like a Lululeman top with a complicated tie back and cutouts on the side. I prefer something like this Converse high neck top.

Sneakers…

Adidas Prophere originals in black and pink.

Reebok Metals.

Well Dressed Boston

by Hilary Lambert, fashion stylist.

If everyone likes it, you’re doing something wrong.

Alexis Jones: I am that girl.

I Am That Girl: How to Speak Your Truth, Discover Your Purpose, and #bethatgirl

Blazer Mid Vintage Sneaker: Nike

Advice from the great Iris Apfel and how to wear it.

Spring has finally sprung!

Proenza Schouler PA

V-Day Advice and fashion tips.

#motherchic