I’ve had an interesting week dealing with multiple circumstances involving bullying. When you’re a parent it tends to come up a lot. Whether your child is bing bullied or they are the culprit, it’s a tough subject. Especially because it’s something all of us deal with throughout our lives so it’s so important to arm your child and yourself with the skills to deal with such nonsense.
What does this have to do with fashion? Fashion is one area that people get bullied about a lot. Most of us have heard or maybe even delivered the line “did you see what she’s wearing?!” in that snobby, condescending and borderline frightened tone. And I suppose if you want to quietly judge someone behind their back that’s you’re prerogative but it’s not kind or productive to blatantly or passive aggressively hurt someone’s feelings based on something superficial and relative to one’s own taste.
So what happened to spawn my writing on this subject? My son wore a hat to school, not the common baseball hat, but a fedora that to me is adorable and even more adorable that he wanted to wear it. I had my suspicions that he may get made fun of because of it and he did. On the bus they grabbed it, through it back and forth making fun of him for wearing it. This broke my heart. As it does when something of this nature happens to your child. I want him to feel free to be himself and not care what others think of him but know this is an impossibility. I know he will forever be affected by what others think. Others opinions are good to the extent that you can learn from them when they are asked for, constructive and not delivered in a way to tear the person down.
I know that my son will never wear this hat to school again and that to me is a loss. But I will keep telling him to be himself and do what makes him happy as long as it’s not hurting anyone else. And most importantly I tell him and my other sons to “keep doing the things that make you different because that’s what makes you wonderful and will ultimately be appreciated by the people you truly want in your life.” It’s also how you will stand out among the crowd and be successful at whatever it is you want to accomplish.
Fashion is a great way to make a statement and get noticed. There are so many examples of entertainers standing out with their fashion choices. They are ultimately the ones people idolize and want to replicate. Here are some examples of fashion risk takers who influenced the world: