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Adulting.

Yesterday was one of those days. It was a cold, snowy day here in New England and I certainly was not in the mood to “adult”. I rolled out of bed, got the kids ready and walked them up to the bus stop. Snow coming down as we walked quickly but steadily to the stop, as we were running late but also didn’t want to slip and fall.

The adults and kids are all there waiting in cold anticipation for the bus to arrive. Of course it’s late, it’s always late on the snowiest and coldest days. There’s a diverse group of adults, not in terms of skin color,  my neighborhood is about 90% white Irish. I think I may be the most “ethnic” with my Eastern European background. But diverse in terms of career. Some in suits ready to rush to work after the bus arrives and others in much more casual attire, like myself who arrived in pajamas. I feel grateful that I don’t have to make the mad dash to an office but can’t help but feel a sense of shame as well.

I work part time and am home mostly with my children. I’m very blessed for that. It sometimes makes me uneasy when I feel as though others don’t understand what I “do all day.” I’m crazy about my children and love being home with them. Taking care of my kids certainly takes up most of my time! I struggle with telling people that I’m a “blogger” or a “stylist” in my spare time, since it’s not a steady office job with benefits. I enjoy everything I do, but most people don’t understand it and sometimes think I’m living in la la land hoping to make a living out of what I love doing. Especially at the tender age of 39.

Perhaps these feelings stem from my own insecurities. Do others suffer with this same feeling when they stand at the bus stop? That feeling of “what do all these people think of my life choices”? Sounds silly and I realize I’m not that important for everyone to be thinking about, but it crosses my mind at times when I’m feeling particularly glum and insecure.

In the meantime I’m going to keep updating my blog in my “spare time” and I’m going to shop for prettier pajamas to wear to the bus stop…

This is pretty much what I was wearing this morning. Except mine had a donuts and coffee print making me feel even more silly and pushing me further in a state of questioning my purpose in life. I love these, they remind me of the pajamas my grandfather used to wear.

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Jogger bottoms are the best, they’re comfortable and wearable in public. Make this a full outfit with a sweater and boots. Monotone is the look right now, so I picked a cream sweater and booties to complete the style.

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Would you feel comfortable wearing pajamas to the bus stop?

xo,

Hilary

 

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What I learned from last night’s game…

Tom Brady is most definitely the G.O.A.T., Gronk’s head needs some serious T.L.C. and …Olivia Culpo is dating Danny Amendola. I should note that I had no idea who Danny Amendola was until I saw a picture posted by Culpo, a Rhode Island Native and former Miss Universe.

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I don’t follow sports and sometimes get sort of demonized for that fact, living in New England where sports are such a big piece of its culture. I didn’t grow up watching much sports so to me the “fanatic” culture is quite foreign. Not to say that I don’t have a sense of pride toward New England sports teams having lived here for over 20 years now. Certainly watching Tom Brady seemingly work his magic in the last quarter of playoff games is quite intriguing and noteworthy.

I admittedly get a little more interested in the Patriots when I see that a strong, sophisticated, business savvy and  fashionable woman is dating one of them. Of course Gisele Bundchen is the first to come to mind, who I have heard makes even more money than her very successful counterpart. And now being aware of the fact that Culpo is dating Amendola creates an even better story surrounding the team. I’m a true believer that having a strong partner is crucial to a persons success. I’m certain that Brady’s stable home life and mutually supportive relationship with Bundchen is a key component to his astounding success on the field.

Choosing a partner that is strong, smart and successful in their own way is crucial to creating an environment that helps you create and maintain success yourself. I certainly don’t know these folks personally but I know what I see on social media. Culpo is a force to be reckoned with having graduated from my alma-mater, Boston University,  going on to win pageants, mastering the cello, creating a strong social media following, acquiring endorsements based on her fashion and beauty acumen as well as opening a restaurant in her home state of Rhode Island, Back Forty. The women’s got a lot going for her!

Speaking of her fashion sense, here are a few of my favorite looks…

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Cyber Monday deals.

Express. 50% off site wide. I just love this mustard yellow sweater.

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ASOS. 30% off site wide with code EPIC30. These Sorel boots are a fashionable way to keep your feet warm this winter and are trending so hurry up and put them in your virtual shopping cart!

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Urban Outfitters. $50 off of $150 or more. Who doesn’t love Sriracha?

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Nordstrom. Extra 40% off clearance items. These UGG Constantine boots are a great gift and value at $101.97.

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Bloomingdales. Extra 25% off. Including this Via Spiga, reversible, faux fur coat in dusty pink.

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Target. Save $25 when  you spend $75 or more. I just love their decorations. The color of these ornaments is just delightful. And you can’t beat the price, $3!

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Where is your favorite place to shop on line?

XO,

Hilary

 

 

 

Coping with Fashion Bullying

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I’ve had an interesting week dealing with multiple circumstances involving bullying. When you’re a parent it tends to come up a lot. Whether your child is bing bullied or they are the culprit, it’s a tough subject. Especially because it’s something all of us deal with throughout our lives so it’s so important to arm your child and yourself with the skills to deal with such nonsense.

What does this have to do with fashion? Fashion is one area that people get bullied about a lot. Most of us have heard or maybe even delivered the line “did you see what she’s wearing?!”  in that snobby, condescending and borderline frightened tone. And I suppose if you want to quietly judge someone behind their back that’s you’re prerogative but it’s not kind or productive to blatantly or passive aggressively hurt someone’s feelings based on something superficial and relative to one’s own taste.

So what happened to spawn my writing on this subject? My son wore a hat to school, not the common baseball hat, but a fedora that to me is adorable and even more adorable that he wanted to wear it. I had my suspicions that he may get made fun of because of it and he did. On the bus they grabbed it, through it back and forth making fun of him for wearing it. This broke my heart. As it does when something of this nature happens to your child. I want him to feel free to be himself and not care what others think of him but know this is an impossibility. I know he will forever be affected by what others think. Others opinions are good to the extent that you can learn from them when they are asked for, constructive and not delivered in a way to tear the person down.

I know that my son will never wear this hat to school again and that to me is a loss. But I will keep telling him to be himself and do what makes him happy as long as it’s not hurting anyone else. And most importantly I tell him and my other sons to “keep doing the things that make you different because that’s what makes you wonderful and will ultimately be appreciated by the people you truly want in your life.” It’s also how you will stand out among the crowd and be successful at whatever it is you want to accomplish.

Fashion is a great way to make a statement and get noticed. There are so many examples of entertainers standing out with their fashion choices. They are ultimately the ones people idolize and want to replicate. Here are some examples of fashion risk takers who influenced the world:

 

 

 

 

 

 

Morning routine to go from feeling “Blah” to “Fab”

You probably know the feeling, forgetting to set your alarm and waking up to frantically get yourself, and perhaps your children, ready for the day. It’s not a good start. This was my morning and I’m still having a tough time getting out of the fog. Sitting at my computer trying to plan my social media calendar and thinking of everything else I need to do to prepare for a successful week. It’s proving to be quite challenging and to be quite honest, futile. It has me thinking about how to combat the fatigue and fogginess I feel and take on the day rather than think about the next time my head will hit my pillow.

Here are a few tips I came up with to get you out of that funk and feeling fabulous.

  1. Splash water on your face, pinch your cheeks and slather on that foundation. This will wake you up, get the blood flowing and foundation, or I like to use a tinted moisturizer by Laura Mercier, is always a necessary start to your day.
  2. Hydrate. Grab your S’well water bottle and drink up. Coffee is always in my morning routine, but hydrating is more important. It helps get your metabolism going and de-fog your brain.
  3. Put a little thought into your wardrobe. Everyone should have a “uniform”, a go to look that they know they look good in. When in doubt, where black. It’s slimming and look great on everyone. Top it off with a nice jacket- you must have a go to jacket that makes you feel more put together? My go to jackets: denim, cropped leather or a blazer.

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4. Eat something. I always have protein bars in my bag for when I’m in a rush. These are my favorites. You don’t want to get “hangry” so be prepared.

5. Lipgloss is a must. Add some color to that face with a nice pink lip, or red is a nice way to really add some drama to your look. I love these by Trish McCevoy.

6. Have a go to soundtrack that will get you pumped. Whether in your car or riding the train, music is such a great way to change your mood and really feel like you can take on the day. One of my favorites to jam out to right now is Katy Perry’s “Swish Swish”, it really taps into that girl power vibe I need to get motivated in the a.m.

Making “Fast Fashion” Work for you.

“Fast fashion is a contemporary term used by fashion retailers to express that designs move from the catwalk quickly to capture current fashion trends.”

Keeping up with the trends isn’t easy. These days it’s simple for retailers to put out different designs based on what’s just been on the catwalk and to “knock off” designer duds within a week or month. Staying fresh is not an easy task. I work at a luxury retailer so I have a deep appreciation for designer made clothes, shoes and accessories. However it’s not lost on me that these things are out of reach of the average person, myself included.

Retailers like H&M, Forever 21, Zara and the like have made being on trend, current and fashionable a possibility for the average person. With that in mind it’s not always easy to pick through the massive amounts of inventory they have to find the items that work for you.

Here are some of my favorite pieces that reflect current styles and just might be right for you, if you have any questions about how to wear these or other styles please feel free to email me: hilary@welldressedboston.com

  1. H&M Viscose Floral Dress. This reminds me of the dresses and boots that Victoria Beckham has been seen in recently and is a look that many can pull off. It’s not tight, shear or short! It’s a pretty, comfortable and confident look. hmviscosefloraldress2) Paper Waist Culottes from Forever 21.  The way it’s styles is cute and a great going out look, or if you’re a stylist like me you could wear it to work. But if you need a more “buttoned up” look I would pair these with some boots like the look above. A maroon or red color. A button down or cami with a  sweater or jacket make it perfect for work.                                              forever21paperbagculottes3) Zara embellished sock booties. Did you know that Zara has one of the best shoe shops?! And these sock booties are a great addition to anyone’s wardrobe looking to be on trend and fashionable this fall.

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Funny tip for looking younger.

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These gorge celebrities are well into their 40’s and they have one anti-aging secret in common.

I heard this trick on the Today Show and wanted to share it because it was so silly to me but have found it to be true. We all know that as we age our lips become smaller but did you know that the same thing applies to your eyebrows? They begin to thin out with time. So, the trick to looking younger is to thicken those babies up!

How do you achieve these young looking thick brows?

Castor oil. This is an at home, easy and cheap way to increase the size of those brows and bonus, it also works on your eyelashes!

  1. Soak a cotton swab in pure castor oil and apply it on each eyebrow.
  2. Massage gently with your fingertips for 2 to 3 minutes.
  3. Leave it on for at least 30 minutes or overnight.
  4. Wash it off with lukewarm water and a mild cleanser.
  5. Repeat once daily for a few weeks until you notice improvement.

MAC: Great Brows. Make up is a great option for those of us who can’t wait for the brows to grow in and is really essential at every stage to define and enhance your brows. I recommend this eyebrow palette.

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How do you thicken your lashes?

XO,

Hil

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