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If everyone likes it, you’re doing something wrong.

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When it comes to fashion or anything creative for that matter, if you want to make your mark and be a “tastemaker” or influencer, you can’t be afraid of criticism. I used to constantly try to please the masses and was really sensitive about the negative comments. Now I realize that it comes with the territory and it’s not only O.K. if some don’t approve of your style, it actually means you’re probably doing something right.

What got me thinking about this was a pair of  Steve Madden slides I recently bought. They have been either loved or hated by my peers. They’ve been compared to an “ugly sweater” and called down right tacky. It hurt my feelings at first and then I thought “it’s not a bad thing if they aren’t liked or loved by everyone, that’s what makes them uniquely me and that’s pretty awesome.”

The best in the style industry are constantly thinking outside of the box and experimenting with different looks. Many of them I have been critical of in the past. I should add that those I’ve been the most critical of have the biggest following! I may not love everything they do, but am inspired by the fact that they are “going against the grain” and not trying to make a statement by looking like everyone else. That’s the point of being a fashion stylist, right? Trying new things and seeing what works and what doesn’t. Don’t be afraid!!

Here’s a list of some of my favorite fashion stylists and bloggers who aren’t slaves to the cultural norms of style.

Gabi Greg, @gabifresh

As a child of the 90s when being a “waif” was the ultimate fashion statement, there’s not much more groundbreaking to me than a women flaunting the hell out of her curves, with STYLE.

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Susie Lau, @susiebubbleon instagram. This bloggers fresh looks and ability to piece things together in a feminine yet “street” worthy fashion is what makes her so good and keeps people watching.

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Alex Stedman, @thefrugality

This is a wonderfully relatable mom from North London who posts fashionable yet affordable looks that are chic and unexpected.

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Some others I follow… Alexa Chung, Chiara Ferragni, Julia Engel, Danielle Bernstein, Nicolette Mason, Giovanna Engelbert…

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Who are some of your favorite fashion influencers??

Thanks for reading!

XO,

Hil

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Adulting.

Yesterday was one of those days. It was a cold, snowy day here in New England and I certainly was not in the mood to “adult”. I rolled out of bed, got the kids ready and walked them up to the bus stop. Snow coming down as we walked quickly but steadily to the stop, as we were running late but also didn’t want to slip and fall.

The adults and kids are all there waiting in cold anticipation for the bus to arrive. Of course it’s late, it’s always late on the snowiest and coldest days. There’s a diverse group of adults, not in terms of skin color,  my neighborhood is about 90% white Irish. I think I may be the most “ethnic” with my Eastern European background. But diverse in terms of career. Some in suits ready to rush to work after the bus arrives and others in much more casual attire, like myself who arrived in pajamas. I feel grateful that I don’t have to make the mad dash to an office but can’t help but feel a sense of shame as well.

I work part time and am home mostly with my children. I’m very blessed for that. It sometimes makes me uneasy when I feel as though others don’t understand what I “do all day.” I’m crazy about my children and love being home with them. Taking care of my kids certainly takes up most of my time! I struggle with telling people that I’m a “blogger” or a “stylist” in my spare time, since it’s not a steady office job with benefits. I enjoy everything I do, but most people don’t understand it and sometimes think I’m living in la la land hoping to make a living out of what I love doing. Especially at the tender age of 39.

Perhaps these feelings stem from my own insecurities. Do others suffer with this same feeling when they stand at the bus stop? That feeling of “what do all these people think of my life choices”? Sounds silly and I realize I’m not that important for everyone to be thinking about, but it crosses my mind at times when I’m feeling particularly glum and insecure.

In the meantime I’m going to keep updating my blog in my “spare time” and I’m going to shop for prettier pajamas to wear to the bus stop…

This is pretty much what I was wearing this morning. Except mine had a donuts and coffee print making me feel even more silly and pushing me further in a state of questioning my purpose in life. I love these, they remind me of the pajamas my grandfather used to wear.

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Jogger bottoms are the best, they’re comfortable and wearable in public. Make this a full outfit with a sweater and boots. Monotone is the look right now, so I picked a cream sweater and booties to complete the style.

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Would you feel comfortable wearing pajamas to the bus stop?

xo,

Hilary

 

Dusters are in, and I’m not talking about the feather kind.

I’ve always loved extra long sweaters and jackets, or “dusters”. There’s something very elegant about this look and it’s been a really hot trend this season. I’m on the search for one that it unique, chic and edgy and here’s a few I came across that fit the mold…

  1. This one from Shein.com is so elegant and cool! I love how they styled it with a head scarf and big sunnies. So chic.

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2) Kimono’s are a great way to sport this look. This one is from Nordstrom and a perfect transition piece for spring.

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3) Fit 3 trends into one with this gorgeous mustard yellow, velvet duster from Nasty Gal.

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Which ones your favorite?

Xo,

Hilary Lambert

 

New Year, new me?

I was catching up on some of the fashion blogs I like to read and came across Brooke Hil’s, Notebrooke.com. I often see her beautiful photos pop up in my insta feed but hadn’t gone as far as to click on her blog thinking it would be the same as all the rest. Turns out I couldn’t have been more wrong. I came across a very authentic, raw and wise post that really spoke to me as an aspiring … blogger?

I say that with a  question mark as I’ve been in the fashion, fitness, lifestyle blogging game for a long time now with successes here and there, but nothing to write home about. In her latest post she talks about the strange world of celebrity fashion bloggers and what it takes to become one. One of the first mentions is how she was embarrassed to say she was a “fashion blogger” when she first started out and struggled to find meaning in it until she received a  lovely letter from a reader who exclaimed her affinity for the realness and intellect in which Brooke’s blog is written. Writing not just about fashion but about things like career and depression as well.

I can appreciate this as I struggle to streamline what my blog is about. I love fashion as you all know, I’ve spent many hours honing my styling skills, working on fashion shows and magazine editorials, taking photos of myself and others in an #ootd that I find to be stylish and blog worthy. However I become a bit jaded and vapid when I find that most of my time is spent looking at the latest fashion mags, street style photos and as is with my job at Saks, being surrounded by designer wears. Besides the fact that I don’t want to be just another fashion blogger with the same content week after week, it doesn’t just bore my audience it bores me.

I strayed from my normal fashion posts when I had my first melt down of 2018 and posted it on my insta-feed. I had a crappy grocery shopping experience and gave a tirade about being nice and how common courtesy is not so common anymore. I questioned if I should have posted it as it shows a side to me I haven’t shared with my followers and wasn’t sure how it would be received. But then thought, this is real life and I like to see that real side of people not just the perfect outfit and mommy moment. I like to be relatable if I can and want to share that with people and make that connection that we are all human and have our good and bad days. Besides the fact that I am so far from perfect that I can’t possibly fake perfection for that long!

Finding balance between “realness” and aspiration is tough. I sell designer brands that are wonderful but generally speaking, not in my price point. I like to show off these beautiful clothes and shoes but don’t want to give the wrong perception that all I wear is designer. I am very much a “fashion within reach” stylist and blogger. It helps to see what the high-end designers are putting out to try and emulate it with pieces I might already have or are available for much less. I will continue to try and do that as I will branch out and share my love of family, fashion, fitness, and as the ups and downs of being a mother, women, wife, employee and human being.

What’s in store for 2018? I don’t know but I’m going to make the best of it and keep going… gotta go my middle child is whining at me to make him oatmeal.

xoxo,

Hilary Lambert

 

 

Black Friday Fashionable Deals.

There’s so many sales happening tomorrow. Here are some fashionable Black Friday deals I love. What deals can you recommend??

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  1. H&M. They’ve got all sorts of great deals on sweaters, jackets … but this purple dress is my personal favorite. Originally $59.99 on sale for $34.99.hm-Purple-Draped-Dress
  2. Nordstrom. The ever popular Stuart Weitzman “highland” boots are on sale. Originally $798.00 now $376.80. You can’t pass that up!Highlandboot
  3. Bloomingdales. I’m a sucker for anything blush and pearl embellishments. This sweater is perfect with some leggings or mini skirt and those highland boots! Bloomies deal is buy more pay less. 25% off $400 or more, 20% off $300-399 and 15% off $150 -$299.Sunsetandspringpearlsweater

3 Dresses Perfect for the holidays…

I love that long, flowing patterned dresses are in style right now and they are just so perfect for the holidays. Here are a few of my favorites I’ve seen so far that will make you feel “oh so pretty” this season. Click on the image to view and purchase.

(Full disclosure:  by clicking on the links you are taken to my affiliate site where as if you purchase anything I get a small commission.)

  1. Add some vibrant color with this emerald green piece by H & M. The I love the feminine pattern and boots are a perfect match.

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2) The color and material of this maxi dress are just luscious and the sleeves add an element of surprise and sexiness. Shop it at Nordstrom.com.

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3) This one from Bloomingdales is by Rebecca Taylor. I love the ruffled turtleneck. Tough wearing short sleeves this time of year but if you pair it with one of those cozy, oversized sweaters and tall boots you’ll be cozy, chic and ready for the holidays.

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Unexpected pairings.

In the mid 2000’s, much to many in the fashion world’s surprise, the UGG boot came on the scene and was a huge hit. All of the celebrities were spotted wearing them and the boots, whose name came from the word “ugly”, started flying off shelves and were being worn with everything from sweatpants to dresses and still are!

Ever since style has taken on a real transformation, embracing comfortable shoes in all forms as stylish. Unusual pairings, like combat boots and maxi dresses are considered edgy and cool (hints from my teenage years in the 90s). Women are no longer afraid to wear “comfortable” sandals, heck all the top brands are making their own version of the Birkenstock!

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When it comes to shoes, and style in general, unexpected pairings is a huge trend, and it separates the trend-setters from the followers. Here are a few examples.

               Converse with a Suit

                      Birks and Leather

            Nikes and Cocktail Dresses

          Combat Boots and Suitcases

How are you rockin this trend?