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Adulting.

Yesterday was one of those days. It was a cold, snowy day here in New England and I certainly was not in the mood to “adult”. I rolled out of bed, got the kids ready and walked them up to the bus stop. Snow coming down as we walked quickly but steadily to the stop, as we were running late but also didn’t want to slip and fall.

The adults and kids are all there waiting in cold anticipation for the bus to arrive. Of course it’s late, it’s always late on the snowiest and coldest days. There’s a diverse group of adults, not in terms of skin color,  my neighborhood is about 90% white Irish. I think I may be the most “ethnic” with my Eastern European background. But diverse in terms of career. Some in suits ready to rush to work after the bus arrives and others in much more casual attire, like myself who arrived in pajamas. I feel grateful that I don’t have to make the mad dash to an office but can’t help but feel a sense of shame as well.

I work part time and am home mostly with my children. I’m very blessed for that. It sometimes makes me uneasy when I feel as though others don’t understand what I “do all day.” I’m crazy about my children and love being home with them. Taking care of my kids certainly takes up most of my time! I struggle with telling people that I’m a “blogger” or a “stylist” in my spare time, since it’s not a steady office job with benefits. I enjoy everything I do, but most people don’t understand it and sometimes think I’m living in la la land hoping to make a living out of what I love doing. Especially at the tender age of 39.

Perhaps these feelings stem from my own insecurities. Do others suffer with this same feeling when they stand at the bus stop? That feeling of “what do all these people think of my life choices”? Sounds silly and I realize I’m not that important for everyone to be thinking about, but it crosses my mind at times when I’m feeling particularly glum and insecure.

In the meantime I’m going to keep updating my blog in my “spare time” and I’m going to shop for prettier pajamas to wear to the bus stop…

This is pretty much what I was wearing this morning. Except mine had a donuts and coffee print making me feel even more silly and pushing me further in a state of questioning my purpose in life. I love these, they remind me of the pajamas my grandfather used to wear.

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Jogger bottoms are the best, they’re comfortable and wearable in public. Make this a full outfit with a sweater and boots. Monotone is the look right now, so I picked a cream sweater and booties to complete the style.

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Would you feel comfortable wearing pajamas to the bus stop?

xo,

Hilary

 

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Morning routine to go from feeling “Blah” to “Fab”

You probably know the feeling, forgetting to set your alarm and waking up to frantically get yourself, and perhaps your children, ready for the day. It’s not a good start. This was my morning and I’m still having a tough time getting out of the fog. Sitting at my computer trying to plan my social media calendar and thinking of everything else I need to do to prepare for a successful week. It’s proving to be quite challenging and to be quite honest, futile. It has me thinking about how to combat the fatigue and fogginess I feel and take on the day rather than think about the next time my head will hit my pillow.

Here are a few tips I came up with to get you out of that funk and feeling fabulous.

  1. Splash water on your face, pinch your cheeks and slather on that foundation. This will wake you up, get the blood flowing and foundation, or I like to use a tinted moisturizer by Laura Mercier, is always a necessary start to your day.
  2. Hydrate. Grab your S’well water bottle and drink up. Coffee is always in my morning routine, but hydrating is more important. It helps get your metabolism going and de-fog your brain.
  3. Put a little thought into your wardrobe. Everyone should have a “uniform”, a go to look that they know they look good in. When in doubt, where black. It’s slimming and look great on everyone. Top it off with a nice jacket- you must have a go to jacket that makes you feel more put together? My go to jackets: denim, cropped leather or a blazer.

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4. Eat something. I always have protein bars in my bag for when I’m in a rush. These are my favorites. You don’t want to get “hangry” so be prepared.

5. Lipgloss is a must. Add some color to that face with a nice pink lip, or red is a nice way to really add some drama to your look. I love these by Trish McCevoy.

6. Have a go to soundtrack that will get you pumped. Whether in your car or riding the train, music is such a great way to change your mood and really feel like you can take on the day. One of my favorites to jam out to right now is Katy Perry’s “Swish Swish”, it really taps into that girl power vibe I need to get motivated in the a.m.

The must have item.

T-shirts. I live in them. They are comfortable, fashionable and the ultimate statement of who you are. Nowadays you can dress um up or down, wearing them with jeans or sequins. They are the ultimate in versatility and comfortability. Everyone should have a good t-shirt in their wardrobe. From 18 to 80, these pieces can look great on everyone as long as you style it appropriately.

Don’t be afraid to splurge a little on one, they are looks that last. Here are a few of my favorite t-shirts out right now…

Vivienne Westwood Middling T-shirt inspired by her Anglomania collection. Paired with these plaid pants, as shown on her site, this look is perfection. The unique style of the shirt and complex statement of plaid suggests “sophistication with an edge”.

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Comme des Garçons Play T-shirt. Emblazoned with their signature logo, this t-shirt is sweet and luxurious. You can’t help but smile when you see the cheeky heart with its big oval eyes. One of my favorite ways to wear a T is with a flowy skirt as shown. I love the juxtoposotion of styles. The elegant skirt with a relaxed T is such a cool statement.

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Givenchy Star T. I’m sort of obsessed with stars right now so this design is perfect for me. A simple statement piece. Leather is always a good idea so pairing it with this mini is my idea of perfect streetwear or for me, work wear (#lovemyjob).

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What’s your favorie way to wear a T?

xo,

Hilary

The importance of dressing well.

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Zendaya as featured in InStyle Magazine.

I had a conversation with my family last week about the importance of being well dressed, or simply dressed appropriately for the occasion. When I say “occasion” it could mean going to a wedding, heading to the office or simply going to the gym.

The conversation came up when my husband was frustrated that my kids wear gym shorts to school everyday. He wants them to take a little more pride in their dress and wear something a bit nicer. I understand his point of view, although being in grade school they have gym class, recess and come home to immediately run around in the dirt outside. So I really have no problem with the way they dress but it was good to have to conversation and really start instilling in them the value of being well dressed.

The way we dress effects so much of our lives, how others perceive us to how we perform at work and any other activity we partake in. A good example is my experience at work yesterday. I dressed appropriately, however when I got to Saks, where I work as a stylist, I noticed my shirt was very wrinkled. It made me feel extremely unkempt, uncomfortable and confident. Luckily I have a steamer at my job but if I didn’t have that option I would have felt sloppy and not ready to take on the world. Which is how everyone needs to feel when they go to work no matter what you do. Some of you may think this is silly, but the way we look affects the way we feel and how we perform.

Here are a few tips for preparing yourself to look and feel your best on a daily basis:

  1. Arrange your closet in a way that helps you pick outfits quickly and efficiently. This involves color coordinating, hanging shirts pants and blazers separately. If you don’t have a big closet with separate sections you can do this by creating different sections from left to right and maybe getting different colored hangers for each category to help keep the organized. I also need assistance in the closet organizing area and will share any tips and tricks I come across with you all. Please share some of your!
  2. Daily planning. Prepare your outfit the night before. When I do this it makes my morning so much easier! Another tip: make sure it’s ironed!
  3. Weekly planning. Think about what your doing in your week ahead and be sure all the clothing and accessories you will be needing are dry cleaned, ironed, washed etc…
  4. Life planning. Think about all the activities you do or perhaps want to do. Whether you’re working, brunching, sweating… you need to dress how you want to feel during these activities. Yes, even at the gym! When I workout in grungy clothes because that all that is clean, I don’t feel or perform my best.
  5. Do your research. Unsure what it means to dress well? As a stylist I know this is an ever evolving art form. You may think that sounds dramatic, but to me it’s an art and that’s why I love it. It’s a wonderful way to express yourself and be creative. Flip through the pages of Vogue or InStyle to get some ideas on what’s current and stylish. Maybe ask a friend who’s style you admire to give you some tips. If you want my help email me for a free consultation: hilary@welldressedboston.com.

What are your tips for looking and feeling your best?

xo,

Hilary

3 Trends that will grow on you.

Most of the time we don’t start out loving a trend, I suppose that’s the point. New trends start out as a style that is not very popular or something completely new and different that many don’t like and are afraid to try. I’m not always immediately on board with what’s fashionable and trendy. It takes a little time for me to warm up to certain new trends, but when I do I love them and find a way of making them my own.

It takes guts to get out there and try something new and different but it can often be worth it. I love taking risks and I love people who do so as well. It’s what being fashionable is all about, so if you try something new and it doesn’t go over well, don’t be afraid to keep trying and you just may become a trendsetter.

Here are a few trends right now that aren’t so popular with the masses but I’m pretty sure will grow on a lot of people, so keep your eyes out for these looks.

  1. Sunglasses. The trend is interestingly a throwback and a look forward. The sleek futuristic style of the 80s is back. I love these ones from Dior.ririsunglasses

2. Choker necklaces. I was obsessed with choker necklaces in the 90s and so glad they’ve made a come back. And there are a lot of cool and different styles to choose from, like this gold chain, star embellished piece on Gigi.

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3. Sheer tops. Cara Delevingne is definitely known for her taste-making skills, and this look is a great example of that. I love the way she makes this sexy look both classy and elegant, pairing it with black cropped pants and heels.

Cara Delevingne leaves her hotel looking runway fierce in a sheer top